All ideas of perfection are based on our own thoughts and come from either past experiences, or education inside and outside of the home. When others do not meet our ideas of perfection, we may pass judgment on them, expecting them to meet our ideals.
Instead of passing judgment on others, we should take a moment to look deep inside ourselves and evaluate whether or not we meet someone else’s ideals. The questions you should ask yourself are:
- Do I fall short of their views?
- Does that mean they are flawed?
- Does that mean I am flawed?
Instead of judging someone who does not meet our ideas of perfection as flawed, we should understand that they are working to live in their own ideas of perfection. We all continue to live in our own ideas of perfection until we experience or learn something new, or unlearn something taught. It is when we relearn or unlearn that our current ideas of perfection change.
We must first take a look at ourselves. The process of understanding begins when we look at someone else and ask ourselves, “Do I fit their ideas of perfection?” Only then will the process of understanding begin. Following that, ask yourself “What is the difference between their views and my views?” Only after asking ourselves whether we can live in others’ ideas of perfection can we ask them if they can live in ours.
In continuation of evaluating yourself and your ideals, think about whether you have created a clique that is molded to fit exactly into who you are and how you think. It is the people who live both inside and outside of their own cliques (consisting of individuals who share the same interests or ideals) that grow and evolve. Accepting others who have different perspectives and beliefs about life will challenge your way of thinking and allow you to understand another person for who they are without passing judgment.
Don’t judge others. Instead, always understand that we all have our own ideas of perfection – step out of the box you’ve created into a world of deeper understanding and beauty.
Peace and Love to the Universe!